Yes, I saw it in the movie theater six times. The 1982 American science fiction film, E. T. (for extra-terrestrial), was a big hit in my household. One of my favorite scenes, however, had nothing to do with the little creature from outer space. More >
I learned a new term this week: The Cone of Uncertainty. Sounds like a potential sci-fi trilogy, but it’s actually a concept used in software development, hurricane forecasting and various other industries.
Maybe you’ve heard of it (if not, check it out on Wikipedia), but it was a new one on me. While The Cone of Uncertainty is a concept and not tangible, I started thinking about our lives on Earth and all of the uncertainties involved in being a spirit in human form. Everything in the Universe is constantly changing.
Byron Katie, speaker and author, says it’s better to know that we don’t know, and keep ourselves open to let life take us where it will. Yes, and … I’m keen on the idea that there are, as Oprah Winfrey says, some things I know for sure. Either way, we all feel like we’re in the clutches of The Cone more definitely at some times than others.
- What do you do when you feel the rigid embrace of “The Cone?”
- How in the world do you cope?
- Are there things you tell yourself that help shift the energy?
Noticing it is a good first step. That gives a little breathing space between you and it. If I’m really squeezed, I say, “Angels be with me,” over and over and s-l-o-w my breathing until I feel the energy shift at least a tiny bit.
Sometimes the Cone can … linger. The very best recommendations I’ve ever heard about dealing with that situation come from a book called Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead by one Tosha Silver.
I fell in love with her just reading the jacket cover!
I gave away all my copies and had to buy another one. By then all the paperbacks were sold out and I had to buy the new hardcover version, but that was all right. I wanted it close by at all times.
Tosha says that by learning to let the Divine take the lead and opening our daily love letters from this “ardent inner suitor,” we learn how to be guided to take right action at the right time … even when we’re in The Cone.
Share what helps you the most when The Cone of Uncertainty shows up in your life. It’s a dilemma we all experience – we can all use tips for the journey.
How can I write a meaningful post for you today? I am feeling muddled. Not crabby, but my head is a little achy from two sips of unaccustomed red wine last night and not going to bed at the usual hour. More >
Early one morning as I stood in the open kitchen doorway gazing out into the back yard and feeling appreciation for all I could take in with my senses, my irksome ego mind interrupted “… come on, get to work, you slept too late already!” Wow. All that from my very own brain.
I brought this up at lunch with my good friend Kay the next day, the challenge of being guided by our own true desires — of flesh or of spirit — rather than the countless ‘should’ messages we’re surrounded with by culture or in our own minds.
- Do I really want to help save the planet or am I supposed to want to?
- Do I really want a green smoothie for lunch or am I supposed to want one?
- Do I really want to have a six-figure income from my business or am I supposed to want it?
- Do I really want (fill in the blank) or am I supposed to want it?
I don’t know about you, but I wasn’t raised to think about what I might want (aside from mayo or mustard on my bologna sandwich). The first time I heard the Abraham-Hicks teaching about answering the question, “What do I want?”, I was so stunned to realize I didn’t know, it took me several years to come up with a clear answer.
Brushing off or clearing away all the judgments about what’s a good thing to want, bad thing to want, worth wanting — all the unlearning to excavate our true wants — can be a big job. It isn’t about always getting what we want. It’s about knowing what we want, authentically, clearly, and in current time (sometimes we hold onto a want only to realize it is out of date).
The best guide I’ve come up with for discerning true wants is this:
- Be in your body, send an energetic cord down into Mother Earth and feel the connection (you have to know a want with your whole being, not just in your head).
- Be still, be quiet, in as peaceful a spot as is available at the time (slowing down to this level outside of sleep means taking a page from nature; better yet, be in nature).
- Close your eyes and listen (remember, we have two ears and one mouth by design).
- Connect with your heart and feel for your answer (look at the dial on your inner compass, your Divine Wisdom).
Sometimes the knowing is quick, sometimes not. Be patient. And it doesn’t always take all of this. Sometimes if you just pause a moment and ask, you know. Be patient. True wants are worth knowing.
Peace and ease,
Four Heart-Opening Questions
An invitation to participate in a “blog tour” came my way recently whereby I am introduced to a blogger’s readers, I introduce her to mine, and then we both pass along the opportunity to additional creative spirits. The intriguing angle is that, as we tour, we all answer the same four questions. More >
I am fond of tools. I love hand tools that do what they are designed to do with ease and grace: needle-nose pliers; kitchen shears; citrus peelers; devices that can cut open those plastic clamshell packages. Another category of tools I’m quite fond of is tools for vibrational tune-ups. That is, tools that help me recover my mojo; liberate me from ego-entrapment; plug me back into the truth of my Being.
This week, a vibrational tuning tool popped into my in-box (priceless mail v. junk mail) and I want to share it with you. If you love and know horses, you’ll appreciate this one. It comes courtesy of one of my besties, Martha Beck. I unabashedly adore Martha.
Imagine there’s you as the Horse Self and you the Rider Self (aka, Higher Self). Here’s what she says:
“You may feel your own Rider Self guiding you right now, tugging at your head, tapping your sides, trying to wiggle you out of your job or into learning French or adopting a child. Begin tuning into it. Pay attention to the subtle tugs and flutters. Try something—anything. Then try something else. When you go toward your best option, the pressure will suddenly disappear. Pay attention. Repeat.”
Isn’t that a good one? Tune in. Experiment. Stay curious while you try different options. When you find the one that feels best, the Rider/Higher Self will relax and off you trot in synch.
This week I’ve been feeling a lot of tugging, tapping, and wiggling as I work on my new web site and business focus. I called a sister IIE (that’s intuitive, introvert entrepreneur) and said, “Help! Meet me for lunch and make it quick!”
We noshed and brainstormed about the wording of the tag line and other descriptors. I blurted out, “If I’m going for clear, clean, and current communication I want the truth and nothing but the truth in the truest way I can say it.” Responding, she articulated the very heart of the descriptions we’d been bandying back and forth. Bingo. We high-fived each other, grinned and finished lunch. No more tugging, tapping, wiggling.
Be the horse. Feel the rider. Tune up and trot on!
It all started with a root canal. As I was waiting for a pain prescription to be filled, I decided I wanted something different to read. More >
Renew. Revitalize. Release. Winter has been longer and harder for many this year. Likewise, some in the southern hemisphere have had record-breaking summer heat. This turning of the year, whether toward springtime or the splendors of autumn is most welcome. More >
Living in a culture where more of a thing is typically much to be desired, it can be hard to disengage from this way of thinking. More >